“Another UM kinkster?” That was effectively the whole message. He was surprised that I had the gall to try to set up a public munch at our school. I don’t know if the intent was to strike up a conversation or not, but eventually he lured me to a public place to meet up. We decided to meet at the mall, which was easy and fun. He and I wandered around and made small talk, getting to know one another but still putting out feelers in case the other was a serial killer. After a little while, he offered to drive me to one of his favorite spots. I got in his car for the first time.