My night of firsts. | 2016

Last night was a night full of firsts for me and I'll go through each one and my reflection/reaction to them.

A little back story, I'm currently separated [27/f], going through divorce (married for 7 years), had a sexless marriage and I'm an insatiable creature. Besides no sex there were plenty of other issues with our marriage, but lets just say sex was a big one.

So rewind to last month, I met this guy on tinder, thank you tinder. He took me to his place after a couple dates and we had some pretty hot sex. It was rough, and I liked it and I could tell he was pretty into it too. Some choking/hair pulling/spanking involved. We had sex three times that night before passing out. I knew I wanted to get fucked by this guy again.

Several weeks later we keep texting and he starts getting flirty with me so I reciprocate the shared interest of getting together again. That's when I get ballsy and ask him if he's into any kink. I've always wanted to try kinkier things in the bedroom but my marriage sex was mostly vanilla and boring (& nonexistent so I saw no point in trying). We chatted about several things we wanted to try. Being tied up, harder spanking/choking/biting/etc. He also mentioned ass play. I've always been against ass play and have never even tried it because I just couldn't get past the thought, so I told him I wasn't interested in that, but we could try some other things out.

We meet up in his apartment last night and I'm horny as hell just knowing what we're going to do. We immediately start making out as soon as we're in the door, but he needs to go shower so I wait in his room with my pants off. He comes in after the shower and boom things start heating up really fast. I won't share ALL the details but here's how some of my firsts went down.

• Used a vibrator on me. He put it in my mouth first and had me suck on it then all of a sudden it was inside me and I had never felt that kind of sensation before. As he played with it on me I writhed in pleasure and it was so overwhelmingly delicious. At that point I just wanted him to fuck me already. (this was a first time for me using a vibrator, and I cannot even begin to comprehend why I haven't made the slightest attempt to purchase one, will do so in near future)

• Tied my hands up with zip-ties. Now I've always wanted to be tied up. Theres something about not having control that makes me really hot and I reacted as I thought I would, if not better. It was so arousing being dominated and not being able to touch him the way I wanted to or push him off if the sensation was too much. Also, the slight pinching pain from the zip-ties on my wrists was arousing, they were not on too tight or too loose, I couldn't get out of them if I wanted to, but they definitely weren't cutting off circulation. They did leave a little bit of a mark and it looks like one might bruise but the reminder of it just makes me smile and wiggle.

• Ass play. While I was tied up he ate me out, fucked me, fingered me and also used the vibrator on me (alternating obviously). It was overwhelming and I was already in another world. All of a sudden while he's eating me out and putting the vibrator in me I feel a squirt of lube on my ass. It surprised me a little bit and I knew exactly what he planned to do but I was so turned on that I couldn't turn him away. I could feel his finger massaging right over my asshole and then slowly he slid his finger into me. I don't know how far he went in because the feeling of the vibrator and his finger in my ass was such a delicious combination that I couldn't determine what was what anymore. All limits were suddenly off and all I could feel was the feeling of fullness in my pussy and ass that I practically convulsed. He also ate my ass after he was done fingering it. It all felt amazing.

• Ass play pt 2. After having sex several times and fucking around, I started getting him hard again and he started to jerk himself off when he asked me to stick my finger in his ass. Before this night I wouldn't have thought I would ever do it but holy shit just watching him pleasure himself and beg me to finger his ass just turned me on so much. I poured some lube onto my fingers and slathered it on his ass. I played with his balls and slowly moved my finger over his puckered asshole. Then with his guidance I slowly stuck my finger in and I could just see and hear how much pleasure he was in. He kept jerking his cock off as I slid my finger in and out of his ass and I was pretty horny watching the whole thing and feeling his tight asshole. I probably enjoyed giving it to him as he felt receiving it. He came so much even after having orgasmed multiple times. Incredibly hot.

• Getting slapped. Now, I didn't really think I would like this but while he was fucking me really hard he would slap my face and then choke me. I don't know if its because its so taboo or because its nothing like I've ever done before that I really enjoyed it. Would I like to be slapped again? Probably not but it was hot enough as a one time thing. Choking? That's a whole other story. I don't know why but I really like being choked. The first time was with another guy and it wasn't something I asked him to do but he did it and I've liked it since.

So, overall my night of firsts was amazing. We fucked around all night and even though I thought I'd never wanted to do any kind of ass play by the end of the night I wanted him to stick his finger in again so I could feel that different kind of fullness again. For you ladies who have been wary of ass play, as long as its clean down there (& also use LOTS of lube), I definitely suggest giving it a shot. If you don't like it, then you don't like it, I'm sure its not for everyone, but if you do end up liking it you'll be glad you tried. Also don't be shy to slip in a finger in his ass too if he wants you to. Everything else just opened me up to more sexual experiences and I will definitely continue exploring my options, after all I'm young and I've got a lot of pent up sexual frustration. :)

tl;dr - Wanted to try kinkier sex ended up first time using vibrator, getting my ass eaten and fingered, getting tied up and slapped around. All the pleasure.