Awkward Behind-the-Scenes: I [F25] had my first threesome with my fwb [M26] and a girl [F20somethings] he met at a bar | 2016

I've been getting many messages since my gwstory about my first threesome. One kindred spirit messaged me with quite specific questions, and my response was so long I figured why not post it as a follow-up. I often have wondered about how awkward it all would be too. In this post, I'll call my fwb "Clark" and the girl "Nadia". Warning, I use "awkward" helluva lots of time.

What were some of the things Clark said/actions he did that motivated you to give it a try?

Here's the set up from my side

Clark and I already agreed to meet up around 8pm. We do, fuck awesomely like usual, and when it was time for pillow talk, he asks me if I've had experience or have interest in playing with a girl. I tell him that I've only gone as far as kissing a girl, but would be down if given the chance. So then Clark tells me that he had some plans around 1030/11pm to meet up with this girl that he met at the bar few nights back. think the key was this: the way he phrased the question. Instead of giving me yes/no-questions, he gave me option-questions. (It's a speech tactic that I sometimes use for my colleagues/siblings too lol). What I mean is that Clark didn't straight up ask me " hey do you want to have a threesome?". To me, that would've been too "goal oriented" and would've given me (and him) a lot of uneccesary pressure. So instead what he asked was "do you want to A) head home, or B) hang out and see where it goes, or C) cancel on her if you rly want to hang out with me." It makes the situation a lot less threatening. (of course, I'm paraphrasing... he didn't rly say A, B, C options. But these were the scenarios that I skipped over in my gwstory).

This way, if I chose option A, then it's within our fwb arrangement, I don't rly mind since we've already fucked once at least lol. If I chose C, I'd still get to hang out with Clark, have more sex or just hang out. In retrospect, it assured me that he said something like "I don't mind offending this girl by cancelling on her if you prefer". Even though we are fwb, it makes me feel nice that he does value me just a bit more :P. And last but not least, if I chose option B, Clark said it can become: B.1) nothing happens, we'd just hang out, talk & enjoy each other's presence (he stressed a few times it's the most likely scenario), or B.2) one or both of us make out with Nadia a little, or B.3) a threesome blast.

Now the set up for Nadia

Her side was a lot more out of the blue for her. As far as I know, they met at a bar and only went as far as kissed. Clark wasn't sure if she was into another girl either. Nadia only found out about me when she called up Clark around 11pm to see if they were meeting up (he doesn't text, so all communication are brief phonecalls) . During the said phonecall, Clark says something like "hey i'll be happy to pick you up... so I was actually hanging out with my friend Throwaway0124u19.. she's pretty cool and speaks chinese too... I think you guys will get along". And then we just drove to her place to pick her up. I managed to warm up to her and exchange more info w her in chinese during the car drive. asked how they met, how's the USA, just relaxing chitchat.

I think what eased her into Clark is that here was a girl who already trusts Clark in terms of sex. And what eased her into the threesome is that we both told her we will stop if she wants to stop any time. Tbh tho, it was actually pretty fun/relaxing/bonding between the two of us teasing him in our languages (he was getting annoyed that he couldn't find the chocolate eggs that I hid in his apartment lol). I also thought that telling her where I hid the eggs in chinese, then encourage her to just help him out will help them bond a bit more too. I only went from watching them to trying to kiss her after they had some time to make out (see more details in next question). With me, she said it was weird, but she wasn't completely grossed out. Getting her relaxed enough to play with me also consisted a lot of me paying very close attention to her body language. I was ready/happy to stop it all if she showed any signs of distress (frozen/tense/saying no/they way her eyes moved, etc). The moment she started groping my boobs and my ass was the moment I figured I can start playing with her everywhere else too lol.

Was there any point were anything got even a little awkward?

Hell yes lol.

Especially at the beginning of the making out. After finding the chocolate eggs, all three of us were just chilling on the couch at first. I sat a bit apart from Nadia, and Clark just decidedly plopped himself between us. We chitchatted about random shit, and then from their body language (his hand moving onto her legs, her not flinching about it), I gather that I should give them some "privacy" since Nadia still didn't seem too sure what to do with me around. Therefore, in my gwstory, I mentioned how I got up quite a few times and took my sweet long time to "drink water", "change music", "go to bathroom".

The first time I got back to the couch from my 'break', I felt like I "walked in/interrupted" on them kissing furiously. It was mostly just Clark towering over and kissing Nadia actually lol). But he was facing the wall and she was facing away from the wall. As soon as she could see me, she'd break it off, and embarrassingly dart her eyes between Clark's and mine, asking if it was ok. I'd smile and be like "yeah go on!". This happened more than once XD.

At another time, Clark leaned back into the couch, letting Nadia rest her chin on his chest. They started just small talking, so I joined her resting my chin on Clark's chest, flirt with her (asking about how she feels about girl-on-girl and so on)... eventually I slowly close in enough (and she didn't pull back) that I gave her a longer soft kiss. Clark tries to initiate making out again, she still seems a bit nervous, so I leave for another "drink of water". Thankgod Clark has a bigger body frame, so that the next time I re-returned to the couch, Nadia couldn't see me. So I sit down next to them, at first just silently watching them make out (yup. i felt awkward lol), then when Clark gets up a little from the couch, so that he is now hovering over her, I take that chance to get next to Nadia and initiate further physical exploration. The rest is in my gwstory :P

Another awkward point I remember was in his bedroom- when he started fucking her. Initially, I literally just laid next to them, not entirely sure what to do but watch lol. I think at that point, Clark noticed my wtfdoidonow awkward (I gotta give it to him... noticing so many things mid-fuck). So he helped by commanding me to "touch yourself" (in our usual sexxion, i like to be dominated a bit anyways). So I'm like, sure whynot, I could finger myself for his viewing pleasure even if I wasn't particularly aroused by seeing them fuck. Nadia was having a great time tho, and I wanted to play with her too. I did try to get physical with Nadia again, but physics kind of clam-jammed me (I also wrote more about this in my gwstory lol).

One more awkward part- is when I realized Clark rly wanted to go at it again, and I just wanted to get away from the damp bed lol. So I did exactly that, headed back out to the couch in the livingroom, and let them have their fun. I wouldn't have minded if they took so long I'd fall asleep on the couch or something. I was pretty cozy and giddy from the whole experience anyhow.

Last awkward- while waiting for Nadia to be done rinsing off, I talked to Clark about staying over. Usually I stay over at his place if it's just me, and very much enjoy Clark's attention to me in the morning. Through the threesome earlier though, I noticed there were times I felt like I was competing with Nadia for Clark's attention. It's fun in the middle of the night, but I don't want to deal with that in the morning. That was all in my head. So I decided (and communicated with him) that if Nadia wanted to stay over (since it's 2am or so), I don't mind, but I'll be returning to own apt (I only live 5 mins bikeride away). He said is fine either way, though earlier Nadia seemed to prefer heading out. Well, after she comes out of the shower she decided to return to her own place. So Clark and I drive her back to her place for the night.

Not awkward and kind of sweet- next morning, Clark told me I had the biggest smile on my face while he morning-fucked me :))) Even though I would've been fine to spend the night at my own place, I was pretty happy that I got to stay over and enjoy a tender morning fuck :D

So.. some concluding thoughts- Finding a flow/balance between the three people in terms of who is getting the attention of whom, etc is probably the most awkward part. I think it requires a lot of reading body language, being very tactful and careful, communicate, and stop immediately if one party clearly shows a "nope" body language.

More personally, having "fwb" with Clark for a few months now, I feel like I trust him because he is never pushy. No "hey wanna try this", it's always very very small steps that he takes before he actually does the real deal (i.e... notice all those scenarios he presented, and how he stressed most likely was going to be a platonic hangout). No pressure = more relaxed = actually higher chance for succsex :P

Happy sexxit :)